Thursday, February 02, 2017

An Explanation of Sorts

You might have noticed that this site was a little thin on content for the past couple of weeks. The week of January 16th, nothing ran at all that wasn't scheduled ahead of time. That's because my husband died of a sudden heart attack in his sleep. I didn't even think about posting for the rest of the week, and even after that, I couldn't write about it. It's taken me this long to decide whether to tell anyone on the 'net.

However, I did make kind of a deal about getting married in 2009. It would be embarrassing for people to ask me about "Mr. Cellania," and cumbersome for me to explain to people one by one, so that's why I'm announcing it now.

He was a wonderful guy, and we were very happy together. He took really good care of me. He had seven kids: five that he already had, and my two, who he adopted a couple years ago. Now they are all grown, and we were planning how to spend our old age together. And suddenly,  I've got to start over and figure out what I'm going to do with the rest of my life.

I have support from my family, friends, and church. And I'm back at work, posting at three blogs to keep me going. I'll be alright, eventually. 

57 comments:

Le Pseudonym said...

Sorry to hear your news. just wanted to say thanks for running this site for us all out here and posting great stuff when it was probably difficult. your husband sounds like he was a decent man. sending love and best wishes to you and your family. XX

Anonymous said...

I wish you strength from a longtime reader from Amsterdam.

Lucy

Kat41150 said...

I'm so very, very sorry for your loss.

You and your family are in my thoughts.

Unknown said...

Sorry for your loss!
Don't worry about your website, you have more pressing matters to focus on.

madamjujujive said...

Oh Miss C - I am so deeply and terribly sorry for your loss! I wish I could give you real hugs instead of virtual ones. You always provide so much in the way of enjoyment and humor for all of us, I hope we can return the favor in support. Don't worry about us, take care of yourself first!

Vireya said...

I can only echo what others have already said. I am so sorry to hear your sad news, but glad to hear you have love and support around you.

Anonymous said...

I was happy for you when you got married and now I am so sad that your husband passed away. Of course people will say things like he didn't suffer and be thankful for the time you had together but his absence will HURT for a long time. I am glad you have people to support you. Try to be around those you love even if you don't feel like it. Only time will make the pain less. Thinking of you from Greece.

Massimo Potì said...

Dear Miss Cellania, I am really sorry for you loss. Take all the time you need to figure things out. In the meantime I just wanted to thank you for all the great joy and fun and thoughts your links always give me: you are one of the reasons why the Internet is still a great place no matter what. You're always gentle with worlds bat always deep with ideas (does that mean something in English? sorry, it's not my mother tongue, Italy here) and I will always look forward to reading your things.

Love to you and your family,
Massimo

Bilbo said...

I am so sorry for your loss, but glad that you are slowly coming back to "normal." God bless you and your family.

Thomas Burr said...

I am a daily reader, because I love your blog. I ws very sorry to hear about your husband. The shock and the grief must be terrible. Take all the time you need; if content stays thin for a while, so many of us will understand!

Lilylou said...

Oh no, I'm so terribly sorry, Miss C. Your blog has given me a lot of laughs and a lot of new information. I read you several times a day. I have been wondering about the death in your family that you mentioned in a comment; I thought it might be Arbroath, but I see that it was much more personal than that. Thank you for telling us. Again, I am so sad for you and your family.

I'm glad you have your family, friends, and especially your church. I have recently celebrated the life of a very dear church member who died suddenly in his sleep and the shock and pain of such a death reverberate throughout a community.

I am keeping you all in my heart.

Rev. Kit Ketcham
Astoria, Oregon
Pacific Unitarian Universalist Fellowship

Unknown said...

I am so sorry for your loss. I have enjoyed your site for many years along with your posting about your family: the girls growing up, finding your man and the renovation of the house to fit the new family.
You will be in my thoughts.

Tom Boynton said...

Miss C, I am so sorry! I wish you the very best.

RedfishJohn said...

Please accept my deepest sympathy. I am a long time, daily reader and have followed your family entries along with the rest of your content. I am sure I speak for many other readers when I say that I feel I know you as well as, or better than, others I call my friends. We share your loss and bereavement.

John

Anonymous said...

Oh my dear, I am so very sorry to read your sad news. Please accept my deepest condolences. Send much love across the ether to you and your family.

- Conanne

Mary Foxworthy said...

Sending healing thoughts and prayers. It will take a while but, Yes, you will be alright - eventually.

Anonymous said...

Miss C,

My deepest condolences on your loss. Good luck and God speed in all you do.

VR,

Bob

xoxoxoBruce said...

Damn. Damn. Damn. Damn.
You're smart and strong so you'll survive, but it's going to leave a deep scar. You and the kids have each other to draw strength from, strength we outsiders can only wish for you.

Condolences become platitudes, but behind them we really do care, more than you can imagine. I hope you'll quickly find relief from your current turmoil, and time brings you peace.

Take care of you, we aren't going away.

Anonymous said...

So so sorry to hear of your loss. A big hug from a long time fan. Thanks for your blog. It's a daily look for me and you add joy and interest to my life. Take care and wrap yourself in the loving arms of family, frie
nds and the many many readers who wish you well.
~ Bill ~

Jane Martin said...

I am so, so sorry for your loss. I was so happy for you when you got married - what came across in your posts was happiness. All the related posts about your husband, the kids, rehabbing the house, the cats; it all seemed so right. I am so glad you had that. To have that taken away is so wrong and unfair, and that's kind of how life is. Sometimes it's great, sometimes it's good and sometimes it sucks more than you thought possible. I wish you and your family the best. I have a feeling you will soldier through learning to live with the pain and loss. But I hope you have good times, moments of sunshine and lots of great memories to keep you going.

harold said...

so sorry to hear this, miss c. we can sometimes forget that there is a real heart beating in our virtual friends and something like this brings life back into a sharp focus. please know that your virtual community does really love you and i hope that brings you and your family a bit of solace..

Anonymous said...

Miss C,

I'm so sorry for your loss. I'm a longtime reader, and have always enjoyed your various sites as a pick me up when I was down myself...

Consider this a big hug....

KingRoper said...

I am so sorry to hear this- stay strong and know that you are appreciated and loved.

stevenh said...

We, your devoted fans and friends, are deeply saddened by your loss.
Sending you love, strength and peace.

Spellucci said...

Miss C,

Thank you for years and years of joy and fun. Please do take whatever time you need for yourself, and know that you are loved by your entire community.

Tim Spellman

Anonymous said...

Sorry for your loss.

barberoux

drgeo said...

Thanks for making me smile, year after year. Your work is important.

"Sorry for your loss" just doesn't convey the enormity of it all.

iamams said...

I am so sorry for your loss Miss C. He really was your Mr. Wonderful. Just know there are a whole of people who care about you, and are sending good thoughts and prayers your way.

Anonymous said...

I am so sorry for your loss. I wish you the best I was a reader here when you two met and fell in love. Been following along for years.

Dan Van Riper said...

That is so sad to hear. Amazing that you've been posting at all. Be strong, life goes on, keep one of my favorite blogs going strong.

Martin Kwapinski said...

I am very saddened to hear your news. My deepest sympathy.

Anonymous said...

I am so very sorry for your loss. Your blog is a bright spot in my day and I'm hopeful that the brightness will return for you again soon.

gwdMaine said...

My heart sank as I read your post. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

Blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted.

-Matthew 5:4

Barbwire said...

I'm so sorry. I, too, am a long-time reader, and remember well when you got married. I was so happy for you! When a death happens so suddenly, it's a terrible shock. It takes time, but I can tell you from experience, your first job is to take care of yourself. You know you have a whole 'nother amily out here, wishing you the best and sending virtual hugs.

Anonymous said...

Wow, I am so very sorry, Miss Cellania. For years I have visited your website as well as Neatorama, and been grateful for your funny and interesting posts. I am sure there are thousands of others just like me who have been touched by you. And I am sure there are many others who are giving you a big mental hug right now. You may feel very alone, and that's okay. But please know that we're out here rooting for you, thinking about you, and grateful for you. Please hang in there *kitten on a rope*.

DohaDaze said...

So very sorry to hear your news. Thank you for all the fun you have brought into my life over the last few years. Sending hugs and prayers to you and all your family.

Heather Moen said...

Prayers and good wishes from Saskatchewan. Hope you are surrounded by love right now. Thank you for always posting and sharing, it's the best part of my morning!

fuji flyer said...

love your blogging,keep on keeping on! you are in my thoughts and have my condolences and prayers.

Ken D said...

Drat! Why do all my friends and their loved ones keep dying? There seem to be so many recently. I am sorry and will.

Madkins007 said...

Our thoughts are with you.

Anonymous said...

I am so sorry. Like many of the others, you have lifted me up on a bad day. I wish there was some way I could do that for you. A virtual hug will have to do, Ailene

Kevin said...

To live in hearts of those we leave behind is not to die. - Thomas Campbell

I very sorry for your loss.

Anonymous said...

I am so sorry for your loss. I read your blog several times a week -- I always learn something interesting and often get a good laugh. Thank you and you're in my thoughts and prayers.

Anonymous said...

Aw Miss C, it's so hard to read this... I've cheered when you've shared good family stuff, I'll have to cry too, now. We're with you, thank you for sharing this with us.

Johnny Wallflower said...

I'm so sorry, Miss C. Your work brings people so much pleasure and I know it must be so painful to carry on right now. Thanks for letting us know.

Anonymous said...

So sorry, our thoughts with you from Australia

Anonymous said...

I am terribly sorry for your loss. I can't offer anything new or truly comforting but you are in my thoughts and prayers. I visit your site several times a day. Your writing has added so much to my life. I wish you and your family true peace and comfort.

Anonymous said...

My heart breaks for you and your family, blessings on you all. KaraBoo in Ohio

Anonymous said...

My best wishes and condolences. I love your stuff come here everyday, hope to see your stuff for as long as you care to do it.

Anonymous said...

I'm so sorry to hear about this, Miss Cellania.

I've enjoyed your blog for a number of years, ever since I came across it on Mental Floss.

Your site is one I visit every day; I have emailed and posted many of your posts to my friends and on Facebook - always giving credit to you for these wonderful, informative and fun parts of my day.

Alice said...

OMG, that made me gasp. I am so very extremely sorry. I lost my first husband 19years ago. You never get over the loss, but you do get through it. Keeping you in my thoughts. Signed, a long time fan

Unknown said...

I am so sorry you have lost your best friend. Peace and strength to you.

Miss Cellania said...

Thank you, everyone. Your compassion means a lot.

Anonymous said...

Long time reader, first time commenter. Very sorry to hear about your loss. Peace and love to you.

Anonymous said...

Very long time reader. I've enjoyed following your posts about your family and was so sorry to hear about your husband. You are in my thoughts-- please take care of yourself.

Anonymous said...

My condolences to you and your family, Miss C. Very sorry for your loss. -A long time reader

andiscandis said...

I am so sorry. You are strong and smart and you are going to be alright eventually, but I'm sorry for what you're going through now.